In Judaism, we are forbidden to respond to suffering with silence; it is our work to comfort and soothe, to help and heal, to make the words of the Kaddish come true a little bit more: that God’s peace on high can be brought down to ease the pain of the mourners. In that spirit, this bereavement guide is for you, to offer hope and comfort as well as informational support during the difficult days, weeks and months ahead.

The Jewish tradition offers defined mourning rituals and stages of grief during the first year after a death as well as for each year following. This Jewish path of grieving supports the mourner from the moment of learning of a death, through the funeral, the first week, the first thirty days and the balance of twelve months. For those who find solace in this faith-based path, the Jewish way is rich in both spiritual and psychological wisdom.

Before reading this guide, we would like to acknowledge your willingness to learn more about grief. Grief is a labyrinth of physical and emotional reminders of loss. There are good days and bad days, and everyone’s grief is as unique as the person that died and the person remembering them. We hope this guide is helpful in your journey. Take what you need and leave the rest behind.

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-Alexander JFS Behavioral and Mental Health Services Team